Writing through the Grief · 2 October 2021

Margie (Matsushima) Miyoshi
(May 31, 1942 – September 16, 2021)

It might seem strange, but writing is a big part of my grieving process.

I do not know how it started but I always need to write something when somebody I know dies. Some sort of tribute.

Often times I think that we do the tributes too late. We ought to write tributes and eulogies before a person dies so that they can hear them. Which is just another way to say that we need to appreciate people while they are still with us. Seems so obvious. I wish I did it more often.

Regardless of when I started writing as part of the grieving process, I know that it is an important part. I process with words. And often music. And so it has been with Mom going to meet Jesus. I cry through the writing. And the music.

I wrote the obituary and a eulogy for my mom. And I was given the gift of a song at her passing. Maybe someday I will share the song with the world too. Who knows. All I know is that that song is stuck in my head. And I know that I am not the one singing it.

Well, I have a lot more to say about writing through the grieving process, but I think that I will save it for later. I really just needed to let the readers of my blog know that I am okay. I am grieving. I am hurting. But I am okay. I know I will see Mom and Dad again in the presence of the Lord.

I also want to say thank you. Thank you to those who have said kind words. Those who have given hugs. Those who are always there. Family and friends are such an important part of going through the grieving process.

By the way. There are few words that are not appropriate when offering condolences. At least as far as I am concerned. Just that people acknowledge that they are sharing in your pain and grief is enough. Words do not need to be eloquent. Sometimes they can even be unsaid. Sharing those silent moments of knowing what the other person is going through can be a powerful thing.

I have more to say on grief and the grieving process, but I think Mom’s eulogy and these few words here are enough for now.

I am thankful for and to my family and friends as I grieve for Mom. And even though it is strange, I am thankful I am able to write through the grieving process.

© 2021 Michael T. Miyoshi

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